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"The Best is Yet to Come."
Picture the following scenario: A stranger approaches you while you wait to board a plane. You are on your way to South America after losing and selling everything. You are still battling a deep depression after a heartbreak, the loss of your business, your dignity, your money, your uterus… Is there anything left?
It’s possible that your RBF (Resting B*tch Face) expression is telling him a story, but you keep it to yourself.
As you gather around Group 5 of herd economy pass holders to board, he then says to you: “The Best is Yet to Come!” I look at him in the eyes, and I am paralyzed, not even knowing what to say.
Then, you give him a half-smile because you’ve been conditioned to nod and be pleasant to men in all scenarios. You quickly move forward in line, praying that you won’t be seated next to him once you’re on board.
All I kept thinking was, if he only knew.
The Chronicle of a Woman and Her Midlife Crises
When I was in my teen years, I had this grandiose idea that I was going to make it big in life. I dreamed of owning my own company, being bougie and rich—everything I didn’t have growing up.
I must admit that everything I achieved was due to sheer determination, grit and an early age boost of energy. From buying my first house to my second, to funding my first business with my own $60K in hard-earned money, these were impressive accomplishments. But still, I never celebrated, nor was I ever celebrated by the people around me, especially in the relationships I endured.
While I had all the energy in the world in my 20s and 30s due to decent genetics, that energy dissipated after so many heartbreaks, losses, and a lack of a support system.
Knowing what I know now, there is one thing I wish I had more of: women mentors. A support system where I could regroup, reenergize, dream again, and have meaningful conversations.
Unfortunately, the successful women I came across kept their circles closed and, most of the time, operated alone.
To be honest, I completely understand their behavior since energy is finite throughout the day, and maintaining a circle of women vibrating at the same level takes effort and alignment. So, I hold no grudge against any of them.
I know that many are yearning for the same type of community, so I hope that this mini memoir will shine light on lessons I learned and hopefully help you retrace your career pivot and a newfound sense of purpose.
The Midpoint
The beauty of reaching midlife is that you are no longer impressed by dreamy, romanticized career ideals. You pass two versions of yourself:
- The 20s version that thought you knew everything.
- The 30s version that thought time was bendable—until you started growing grays and realized that time is linear and won’t stop for anyone.
The truth is, I don’t regret any of my past “failures.” Every setback led me to a better place in my life. But my only regret is the time I wasted trying to find a relationship that fulfilled the ingrained expectations impressed in my DNA to follow a certain “expected” path.
After careful consideration and research on career options, I decided to be more conservative this time in my approach—even though the entrepreneur inside me just wants to go out there, start a company, and hit the ground running, the now almost 40 years old Sabrina needed to consider time more carefully.
Now, as you read this article, take what you need, toss what you don’t, and don’t forget to leave a comment or share this on social media if you can help a sister out.
#1 You Are the Architect, Construction Worker, and Client
To build the right foundation for anything in your life, you must have a blueprint. Otherwise, the structure will be faulty, and at some point, it will crumble.
The problem isn’t just that the building might crumble; the problem is that time is limited, and we can’t afford to waste it on faulty structures.
So, spend time planning before executing.
Whether you prefer pen and paper, Notion, or digital note-taking, take the next few days to lay the foundation for your next steps and research ideas.
#2 SHOW ME THE MONEY!
This might contradict the usual advice: “Find what you are passionate about, and success will come.”
In my personal opinion, I hate this advice because it creates confusion and procrastination.
There’s a time and place for passion—such as a YouTube channel, a blog (like this one), your hobbies, or philanthropy. If that passion later turns into a career, great. If not, life goes on, and inflation continues to rise.
When we reach midlife—especially as women—the currency of time only cares about hourly pay and financial stability. We are here for high dollars and glowing skin.
If you’re at a career pivot, the ultimate goal is to combine what you’re good at (or can become good at) with an industry that is growing ($$$). Keep your eyes on the prize.
In my case, I enjoy working with technology and constantly learning.
After extensive research on market growth and my skills, I decided to pursue a career as a Cloud Architect. I even made a literal move to another country to dedicate the next few months to learning the necessary skills, networking, and building my portfolio.
Keep this equation in mind:
#3 Find the Ones Who Came Before You
If you want to succeed, find people who have already done what you’re striving for. Learn from them, support their content, and pay attention to their insights.
Here’s an extra tip: reach out! Send a DM or email and see if you can pick their brain. You’d be surprised at the kindness of strangers.
And if you can find someone who looks like you—same gender, orientation, age—even better! Representation matters. But if not, don’t judge too quickly. Everyone’s journey is unique.
#4 Add a Vision Board to the Mix
A collage of images isn’t just wishful thinking—it helps your mind integrate your vision and align it with your path.
Create a board that reflects your career pivot and desired emotions. Once completed, set it as your phone, tablet, or desktop background. Contemplate it daily with appreciation and feel the feelings.
This might be the hardest part—because it’s abstract and not yet real—but your blueprint (including steps) will keep you on task, building brick by brick.
#5 Let Go of Control
Now that you’ve done all this work, it’s time to release expectations.
They say, “We make plans, and God laughs.” That was my Achilles’ heel—I wanted to control everything, which only caused more stress and blocked the flow of opportunities.
If you hold on too tightly, you suffocate the creation process. Let go and let it grow.
There’s a reason you dream of more. That dream was placed inside you by something bigger than all of us.
So, create the plan, plant the seed, let it germinate, and allow it to grow in whichever direction it must.
Trust the process.
With love,
Sabrina <3
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